{"id":14247,"date":"2026-03-07T15:32:40","date_gmt":"2026-03-07T15:32:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/karrierecoaching.ch\/?p=14247"},"modified":"2026-05-04T06:16:35","modified_gmt":"2026-05-04T06:16:35","slug":"why-we-need-to-speak-differently-about-ourselves-in-a-job-interview","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/karrierecoaching.ch\/en\/why-we-need-to-speak-differently-about-ourselves-in-a-job-interview\/","title":{"rendered":"Why we need to speak differently about ourselves in a job interview"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know the situation: a friend talks about their working day, you ask questions and want to understand more about the environment. Certain aspects need explaining so that you can follow. You drift off onto interesting side tracks. After an hour of conversational ping-pong, you are both content and order the next pint. Efficient? Hardly.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Peter N\u00e4f<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

That is how we converse in everyday life \u2013 we allow ourselves to drift. After an hour, you may know more about your friend\u2019s professional challenges. But was that truly the aim of the communication<\/a>? Probably not. It was less about information and more about \u2013 borrowing from our closest relatives in the animal kingdom \u2013 mutual grooming.<\/p>\n

For presenting one\u2019s professional experience in a recruitment process, however, this type of communication would be useless. You would need countless sociable evenings with recruiters<\/a> before a clear picture emerged.<\/p>\n

Reading the communication situation correctly<\/h5>\n

In Paul Watzlawick\u2019s model of the content and relationship levels of communication, our two conversational partners were likely focused primarily on the relational aspect. The factual content was secondary. Our protagonist might just as well have spoken about his last holiday.<\/p>\n

For applicants, this means: the relationship is built during the conversation \u2013 the content is built in the preparation.<\/p>\n

Normally, we speak about ourselves in exactly this unstructured way \u2013 without clearly defined objectives. As a result, we do not prepare. We mistakenly assume that we can talk about ourselves spontaneously and fluently. In reality, we often work out the substance only during the conversation itself, guided by the questions of our counterpart.<\/p>\n

This may explain why even strong communicators \u2013 seasoned sales professionals, for example \u2013 sometimes fail in interviews.<\/p>\n

Good communication is compressed time<\/h5>\n

In a job interview<\/a>, the factual content carries greater weight. The professional experience of the applicant determines whether an offer is made. And since there is no time for extended conversational back and forth, information must be structured, concise and vivid.<\/p>\n

A strong self-presentation in a job interview is compressed time. In sixty minutes, a picture must emerge that would otherwise require weeks in everyday life. The interview does not replace long conversations \u2013 it condenses them.<\/p>\n

A convincing self-presentation does not happen by chance; it requires preparation. I therefore advise my clients to prepare for a job interview as if they were about to give a presentation about themselves to an audience. That alone makes clear how much effort is involved.<\/p>\n

And yet: structure convinces the mind \u2013 relationship opens the door. Even in a job interview, the best factual argument remains ineffective without a viable human connection. As in private conversation, both levels matter \u2013 simply in a different balance.<\/p>\n

#communication<\/a> #application<\/a> #jobinterview<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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