Feelings arise in the mind – and in the body
I use «emotion» synonymously with «feeling». Emotions are not automatic reactions but the result of our internal interpretations. When something contradicts our expectations, emotions arise – for instance, anger when someone avoids eye contact. What we forget: feelings are learned. They emerge from thoughts, often shaped unconsciously by cultural or familial influences. Emotions reveal not reality itself, but how we interpret it. The same situation may trigger different emotions depending on cultural context – what’s seen as rude or aggressive varies.
Taking responsibility for what we feel
Emotions often seem imposed upon us – yet they are self-created. It’s not the situation, but our perception of it that triggers emotion. This distinction empowers us. Through emotional self-management, we can check whether our reaction fits the context or is based on distorted thinking. At the same time, emotions can be valuable signals: anger, for instance, may indicate that someone is crossing our boundaries. Emotions help us respond authentically – if we are willing to decode their message.
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